People are mean. People judge. Hate is a normal human emotion just like sadness and anger and apprehension and disappointment.
A lot of people hate each other. And that’s okay.
But don’t you dare apologize.
Don’t you dare apologize beforehand for being you. Don’t. Don’t tell someone “sorry if this is bad” before you say something.
You do not have all the time in the world to waste your breath on those five words. You will have more significant days in which “sorry” just won’t cut it. But this is not one of them.
True story: I had a friend a few years back who was an excellent songwriter. But like me, she hadn’t learned the art of being fearless yet. And even with time she didn’t realize her own self-worth, and then she plummeted, taking me down with her. I didn’t think much of it at the time. But I thought her work was beautiful, but she always apologized for how horrible it was, for how I had to endure it being her friend. And yet it was one of the single most beautiful things I’d ever known. And in her darkness she couldn’t see the light.
You should never be sorry for being yourself.
Smile. Breathe. Live fearlessly. Because this is life - knowing that you’re afraid and we’re afraid and nothing in this world is going to make us unafraid. but living anyway.
You will offend people. You will encounter people who find you disgusting and horrible and ugly and worthless and a waste of space. You will find boundless people who dislike you for your unapologetic behavior. And you will move on, and live anyway.
You will live and you will find people who love you for your confidence. For your beauty. You will love yourself in the best way possible, forgetting about those who hate you. Because in the end you will always be hated and loved and hated and loved, all at once. Human nature is not fully harmonious in a perfect, utopian way. It is impossible. And not everyone will hate you.
By apologizing for something you haven’t already presented, you set up an expectation for people. Now your audience expects it to be bad. You take away their open-mindedness and replace it with an apprehensive dark cloud. Don’t. Don’t do this. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.
You cannot be perfect, but you can be the best person you are capable of being.
So don’t ever, ever be sorry for being you."